The method of self-affirmation is that the individual constantly trains himself to express himself confidently (without exaggeration), and to express his feelings – whether positive or negative – and his opinions. The individual must train himself to develop his ability to express feelings of love, admiration, or appreciation, as well as feelings of rejection, anger or hatred, verbally, clearly and directly. Following this method leads to self-confidence and self-esteem.
Undoubtedly, the changes that occur in the behavior and appearance of the individual, which confirm to the individual his self, have a significant impact on the individual’s perception of himself and the perception of others as well. Also, this method has its benefits in improving the individual’s ability to socialize and not suppress feelings.
Some therapists who follow such a method train their patients on how to perform various social situations, such as how an individual talks to his boss.. and how he expresses his opinion in front of others, especially those with authority or influence, or how an individual expresses himself and his feelings for the opposite sex. There are many methods of self-affirmation.. Some of them depend on self-affirmation through appearance and general behavior. In practicing self-affirmation through verbal skills.. the individual should pay attention to the mental presence in different situations.. and after being preoccupied with life matters and problems while he is in different social situations. Likewise, the individual must train himself to use phrases that confirm his existence, such as “I love” .. or “I hate” .. or “I support” .. or “I see” without fear of social criticism .. and also not to overemphasize Existence..with honesty in self-expression..the opposition should not be for the purpose of attracting attention.
Some believe that appearing in the form of exaggerated subservience or politeness, submission and shyness may bring them acceptance, love or appreciation, but this belief is not true, and you can if you are one of those who behave the way of the poor subservient in front of their superiors or in front of any official.